As your first month of school is underway, you are no doubt thinking about the new classes, your new classmates, your teachers, and for those moving into a new building you are also thinking about your new environment. As youth your mind is spinning at a whirlwind pace trying to take it all in while at the same time maintain your cool.
Many of our students do not want their peers to see them sweat so they cover over their anxieties with jokes, laughter, teasing, and sometimes insults and bullying.
So before you go down that slippery slope of negativity, you will want to check yourself and take inventory of your emotions and your thoughts.
Ask yourself are you following the HIGHEST principles possible? Are you working to BE THE BEST you possible? Are you taking the higher ground and GROWING emotionally and psychologically so that you can function at your optimal level?
Without that mindset you will be just ‘another wannabe, could-a, should- a kinda person’ whom teachers and administrators will later say” “They had so much potential to be more”. Don’t let that be said about you! Don’t leave your educational game on the bench. Bring your “A” game everyday so that when the big tests come along in life you can pass them.
With that said, lets consider some of the areas that you will eventually be confronted with as you progress through school. Politics, Religion, Gender Equality, Sexuality, Grooming, Dress, Music, Friends, Physical appearance are some of the many topics you will eventually discuss in the cafeteria, playground, gym, on the bus and even walking to and from school. Even though all people have to deal with each subject matter (including teachers, administrators and even your parents, grandparents, siblings), you will be surprised to learn how many different answers can be provided for each of them. But for every different answer there are also different outcomes. So the choices you make today will make a HUGE impact on your potential outcomes tomorrow!
The point being, is that YOU need to be YOU! Do not let someone else tell you WHAT TO BELIEVE, WHO TO VOTE FOR, WHAT FAITH YOU SHOULD HAVE, WHAT FRIENDS YOU SHOULD HAVE, etc. But as noted above, there is only ONE answer that can MAXIMIZE you potential. If all choices or just ANY choice led to the same outcomes then why do we have so much corruption, dishonesty, hypocrisy, crime, violence, etc.
There is only ONE answer that can help you be the BEST YOU possible!
If you are really paying attention to our blog you will have more than an inkling of what direction you should go. One of my friends once said that opinions are like tennis shoes. Everyone has them and they all STINK!
Opinions usually are odorous when we do not agree with them. But having been raised in a rural area as a teen I actually came to love the smell of a dead skunk. It took some getting used to but I can truthfully It is not as offensive as the first time I smelled it. There is something refreshing about the pungent order of dead skunk that clears the nostrils and open the lungs. The point is that we are going to here opinions that initially we may find ODOROUS, but after we have had some time to think about them and as we gain more knowledge and understanding, discernment and thinking ability, then we begin to see the WISDOM in those words, that initially we did not agree with. Allow yourself that opportunity to understand the words you hear, before you draw your final conclusions.
So as you walk the hallways of school and eventually the hallways of life, test the quality of the words. Listen to the emotion and conviction attached to them, then determine if they have merit. But be forewarned!
Remember, that even a racist has conviction for their beliefs, and even Hitler had conviction for his actions. But that does not justify them nor make them legal nor make them acceptable. So be careful about the conclusions you draw on the words you hear. You may just need more knowledge, understanding, discernment and thinking ability before you can properly come to the right conclusions.
Choose your friends wisely. You WILL become the company you keep!
If you hang around people who have a limited vocabulary and use colorful metaphors to express themselves, there is a 99.9% chance you will do the same. If they deal with their anxieties by smoking and drinking, there is a very high probability you will do the same.
However, the same can be said if you hang around people who have proper manners, and principles, people who understand investment portfolios, real-estate, entrepreneurial-ism, people, who have self-respect and a positive self image and positive self esteem, people who follow a higher standard, people who have their values grounded on higher principles. Their good qualities WILL BECOME YOUR good qualities!
When you choose the latter, you have a greater chance of accomplishing your goals without disappointments and regrets in your life. So ask yourself, which would you rather have?
If you believe you have to experience disappointment in order to know how it feels then you may also be a person who thinks the glass is half empty. You may be the negative-nellie of the group, always putting others down, always complaining and finding fault with everyone and everything. That is not an image a healthy mind would want to paint of themselves.
Don’t be this guy! Act like this!
However, if you think you can learn many of life’s lessons by watching and learning through others failures and successes then you may be a person who thinks the class is half full. That is a very positive individual who is always looking for the silver lining, looking for the good, and pursuing the higher virtues. BE THAT PERSON!
You will thank me later!
Steve Brown MS, CEO